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Title: Hear me out.
Post by: Bernie on May 10, 2013, 05:47:04 AM
Hey guys, it is with a very heavy, and humble heart I come to the forums today.  Many of you know that the last couple months have been rough on my family, with my father falling ill and Jimilee having issues with the pregnancy.  Well, the good news is, my father has just about fully recovered and is doing much better.  Now for the bitter/sweet...

We had our baby girl May 7th, and she is just beautiful.  She is perfectly healthy, and everything seems to be in order, except for one thing..  Sutton was born without her soft palate.  Read about that here if you would like to.  http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/birthdefects/cleftlip.html

Basically, we have to start taking her to a specialist starting this coming Monday, to talk about when to have it repaired.  Hers happens to be further back, so it is hard to notice, unless she is crying and her mouth is open.  What this means for her, is difficulty eating, breathing, ect..  We had a pretty good scare last night, and had to call an ambulance.  She spit up a little, and it went into the hole in the soft palate, causing her to choke.  I didnt know how to react, and Jimilee was freaking out.  I was able to hold it together, and suction her mouth and nasal canals, but it was scarey as hell.  She was all arched back trying to breath, and turning blue in the face.  Lets just say, I never want that to happen again.   :cry:  Anyway, enough of that.  On to what is hard for me to do, but I am going to put it out there anyway.

Basically, my cushion funds have been depleted, and missing more work on top of it now to care for little Sutton.  It is taking a toll, and I need help.  The specialist Sutton needs to see, is in Richmond VA, about 45 minutes from my home and Jimilee cannot drive nor work for 6 weeks.  Basically, I have not started to fall behind yet, but that door is slowly starting to open.  I am not begging by any means, and its hard to even ask for help as I am a proud person that is used to helping others in time of need.  ](*,)  If any of you would like to donate anything at all, I would be most grateful.  Any amount would be appreciated.  My PayPal is jimileelindell@gmail.com if anyone would like to.  Thanks to everyone for taking the time to read this.  All thoughts and prayers are VERY welcome. 
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: ProfessorProfessorson on May 10, 2013, 05:57:46 AM
You make a good argument good sir, and now have a little moar cash in your paypal then you did before.  :wink:
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Nando on May 10, 2013, 06:05:27 AM
Damn Bernie, our thoughts and best wishes are with your family, may your baby girl pass all these hurdles without much issues and no long term consequences.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bob on May 10, 2013, 06:28:53 AM
Bernie, sorry to hear this from a great member.

Now hear ME out...
I would be happy to organize a "group sale" for bernies benefit.  If anybody is interseted, send me a dupe, or any other turbo related item and i'll list the lot on ebay.
Berns will get all the cash from the auction, and i have at least one game to pitch in and i'll cover the listing/paypal fees.
I know anybody could do this themself, but it could be a good community effort to pull together for the big guy.
If you dont want to, fine, but i hope this finds some interest, and may be easier for some people to help.


Edit: fixed spelling errors
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Sparky on May 10, 2013, 06:44:13 AM
galam..i like the idea, i will see what i have that would be valued well on ebay and send your way.

In the mean time... Bernie my heart goes out to you and your family as money worries you do not need right now, especially with a new baby.
expect funds later today or tomorrow, you have my word.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bob on May 10, 2013, 06:46:59 AM
galam..i like the idea, i will see what i have that would be valued well on ebay and send your way.

In the mean time... Bernie my heart goes out to you and your family as money worries you do not need right now, especially with a new baby.
expect funds later today or tomorrow, you have my word.

Cool Sparks, good to see at least one in.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bob on May 10, 2013, 02:28:40 PM
Ok, so here's what I propose...

I would like to start a 5 day Ebay auction on June 1st(ish).

If anybody would like to contribute a duplicate game, or any other Turbo related goodness, send me a PM with what you have to offer.
I would like to receive everything by May 25th(ish) in order to take pictures, write the description, and all the other Ebay crap that goes along with a listing.

[ul][li]I will be doing one auction and sell the whole pile as a single lot, with a somewhat low starting bid.[/li][li]Once we have everything, I'll share the details and we can determine a good starting price.[/li][li]I will cover the final value fee and paypal fee.  This way, whatever the auction ends at will go right to Bernie.[/li][/ul]
I do hope a few people would like to circle the wagons and help him out.  Not everybody can give money straight up, so this may be a fun way to chip in.
I think I have a spare Double Dungeons to get the ball rolling.

Please keep in mind, this has nothing to do with what you think of me, this is for Bernie.  He's a terrific member around here and maybe this will help cement what a great place this is.
Worth a shot.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Bernie on May 10, 2013, 03:02:58 PM
You guys are awesome.  Thanks to everyone who has helped so far, you know who ya are.  :)  galam, shoot me you address.  I will send off a bunch of stuff to you that is pc engine related.  Again, you guys are awesome.  Thanks so much to everyone.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bob on May 10, 2013, 03:19:44 PM
You guys are awesome.  Thanks to everyone who has helped so far, you know who ya are.  :)  galam, shoot me you address.  I will send off a bunch of stuff to you that is pc engine related.  Again, you guys are awesome.  Thanks so much to everyone.

Wait, you can't contribute to your own gift.   :-k

We need to rally the troops!
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: FiftyQuid on May 10, 2013, 04:21:37 PM
Bernie I sent you what I could.  Call me naive, but I had never heard of this birth defect.  My prayers are with your family.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Sadler on May 10, 2013, 04:30:02 PM
Sorry to hear about the challenges you face. :( I've tossed a few bucks your way. :)


I would be happy to organize a "group sale" for bernies benefit.  If anybody is interseted, send me a dupe, or any other turbo related item and i'll list the lot on ebay.

I was thinking something similar, but I don't know if a lot is the best approach. How about an organized thread sale thread here? Buy what you want, proceeds go to Bernie. I've got some dupes I'd throw to the cause.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: esteban on May 10, 2013, 11:16:58 PM
Bernie, anything involving the little ones can be intense. I know you are going to take care of her. (http://junk.tg-16.com/images/pcgs.png)

I sent some electronic fund transfer love your way. Good luck. There are few, if any, things I know with certainty, yet I know everything will work out for you. Seriously. (http://junk.tg-16.com/images/pcgs.png)

Godspeed, comrade. Godspeed.





Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Sparky on May 11, 2013, 02:42:16 AM
Ok, so here's what I propose...

I would like to start a 5 day Ebay auction on June 1st(ish).

If anybody would like to contribute a duplicate game, or any other Turbo related goodness, send me a PM with what you have to offer.
I would like to receive everything by May 25th(ish) in order to take pictures, write the description, and all the other Ebay crap that goes along with a listing.

[ul][li]I will be doing one auction and sell the whole pile as a single lot, with a somewhat low starting bid.[/li][li]Once we have everything, I'll share the details and we can determine a good starting price.[/li][li]I will cover the final value fee and paypal fee.  This way, whatever the auction ends at will go right to Bernie.[/li][/ul]
I do hope a few people would like to circle the wagons and help him out.  Not everybody can give money straight up, so this may be a fun way to chip in.
I think I have a spare Double Dungeons to get the ball rolling.

Please keep in mind, this has nothing to do with what you think of me, this is for Bernie.  He's a terrific member around here and maybe this will help cement what a great place this is.
Worth a shot.

Sounds good so If it is one auction we should keep all the items related as it will sell better right? So tg16 and or pce related items? Also maybe start a new thread so people know what's going on.. "Let's help our pal Bernie" :)
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: munchiaz on May 11, 2013, 04:27:41 AM
Sorry to hear about this. Ive sent you some funds. Hang in there man.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Bernie on May 11, 2013, 06:31:09 AM
Man, you guys are the greatest!  I cannot begin to express the gratitude Jimilee and I are feeling right now.  We both thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  It is such a pleasure to be part of such a great community. 
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Post by: DragonmasterDan on May 11, 2013, 07:28:22 AM
I didn't see this thread until today. Best wishes!
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: wmacmonagle on May 11, 2013, 12:45:32 PM
Ditto. Best wish to u!  Paypal (donate) some and its not big but something!

Tcare
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bob on May 11, 2013, 01:14:11 PM
Ok, so here's what I propose...

I would like to start a 5 day Ebay auction on June 1st(ish).

If anybody would like to contribute a duplicate game, or any other Turbo related goodness, send me a PM with what you have to offer.
I would like to receive everything by May 25th(ish) in order to take pictures, write the description, and all the other Ebay crap that goes along with a listing.

[ul][li]I will be doing one auction and sell the whole pile as a single lot, with a somewhat low starting bid.[/li][li]Once we have everything, I'll share the details and we can determine a good starting price.[/li][li]I will cover the final value fee and paypal fee.  This way, whatever the auction ends at will go right to Bernie.[/li][/ul]
I do hope a few people would like to circle the wagons and help him out.  Not everybody can give money straight up, so this may be a fun way to chip in.
I think I have a spare Double Dungeons to get the ball rolling.

Please keep in mind, this has nothing to do with what you think of me, this is for Bernie.  He's a terrific member around here and maybe this will help cement what a great place this is.
Worth a shot.

Sounds good so If it is one auction we should keep all the items related as it will sell better right? So tg16 and or pce related items? Also maybe start a new thread so people know what's going on.. "Let's help our pal Bernie" :)

Right.  I was hoping to just do a TG16/PCE auction.  If we start mixing consoles/items it may be tough to attract the best bids.
From my experience, bunching up different games for different consoles doesn't do too well.  I only have time to commit to one auction, and I'm trying to keep it simple for everybody.

The way I look at it, it's a win/win/win all around.
Donate a dupe for good karma (all you are out is shipping it to me...WIN)
Somebody out there may end up getting a good deal for whatever we conjure up to auction (WIN)
Bernie gets the money (WIN)
We have a fun auction to watch (WIN?)
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: ParanoiaDragon on May 11, 2013, 02:29:25 PM
Bernie, I hope I can give you a little bit of hope & comfort & general info from someone who went thru this.  I was born with a cleft palette & lip, & now I'm 36.  I had 7 surgeries over the first 18 years of my life correcting it.  I think I was 3 months with my first surgery, I'd have to ask my parents what specifically was done, but I think they closed my lip up.  Later they closed up my palette to an extent.  I do still 2 holes in the roof of my mouth.  One right in the middle, & another a lil bit in front of it & to the right.  The latter hole is from a tooth that was growing there, & eventually with braces, it was brought up into the front of my mouth with the rest of my teeth.

They didn't want to work on my nose much until I was older, because of the fear of it growing & getting messed up after surgery if they did it too early.  So when I was 18, they took some cartilage out of my right hip, & put it in my right nostril & my jaw.  Everything came out just fine.  My nose isn't 100% perfect, & I do have a minor scar down my lip, but people don't notice either of that unless I point them out, which is good for your kids sake.  However, I do believe in grammar school, that I was made fun of a bit, so bare that in mind.  I'm sure Dr's are better at fixing the problem nowadays, so maybe she'll get fixed up earlier then me.  Growing up, I did have earaches a lot, which may have been from this, but I haven't had any in 20 or more years.

I do believe that part of my ability to mimic sound with my voice or my ear for music might have something slightly to do with the holes in the roof of my mouth, but that's only a theory on my part.  I can whistle, but when it comes to speech, I do tend to slurr my words.  I went thru some speech therapy growing up, I think it helped.  I mainly have problems with using the letter "s".  I don't put my tongue in the same place that others do when using words with "s" in them.

That's all I can think of at the moment, but I'll keep thinking of other things related to my lip & palette, if only so you know what to maybe expect in the future.  All in all though, I'm very happy with the results of the surgeries.  So hang in there dude, I'll see if I can help in a monetary well as well.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: turbokon on May 11, 2013, 02:36:32 PM
Thanks for sharing paranoiadragon and sorry to hear that bernie.  I'm sending a little your way.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: SuperPlay on May 12, 2013, 02:22:29 AM
Just pinged you a donation.  I will fire off a bit more when I get payed again at the end of the month.

Hope that all works out well for you and your family.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Bernie on May 12, 2013, 04:57:19 AM
Paranoia, thanks so much for sharing.  Fortunately for us, Sutton only has the one hole in her soft palate.  Jimilee did say it was strange you mentioned having problems with certain letters, such as "S".  She was born the exact same way as Sutton, and of course they repaired it with surgery, but she also has those issues with certain letters.  To look at Sutton, you wouldn't even know there was an issue.  We head to Richmond tomorrow morning to see the specialist, so hopefully this can soon be a thing of the past.  I cannot bear thinking of her having surgery, and being in the hospital for a few days.  :( 

I just am speechless as to the amount of support this forum has poured out for my family.  I cannot say enough, THANK YOU ALL, from the bottom of our hearts.  Thank you so much.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: FiftyQuid on May 12, 2013, 08:55:32 AM
Paranoia, thanks so much for sharing.  Fortunately for us, Sutton only has the one hole in her soft palate.  Jimilee did say it was strange you mentioned having problems with certain letters, such as "S".  She was born the exact same way as Sutton, and of course they repaired it with surgery, but she also has those issues with certain letters.  To look at Sutton, you wouldn't even know there was an issue.  We head to Richmond tomorrow morning to see the specialist, so hopefully this can soon be a thing of the past.  I cannot bear thinking of her having surgery, and being in the hospital for a few days.  :( 

I just am speechless as to the amount of support this forum has poured out for my family.  I cannot say enough, THANK YOU ALL, from the bottom of our hearts.  Thank you so much.
You're one of the nicest guys on this forum Bernie.  If it wasn't for you I might not even be here.  It's the least I could do.  All the best to you and your family.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: esteban on May 12, 2013, 11:34:36 AM
You're one of the nicest guys on this forum Bernie.  If it wasn't for you I might not even be here.  It's the least I could do.  All the best to you and your family.


Exactly. It's a damn shame we can't FULLY show Bernie how much he helped keep this forum a great place to be. (http://junk.tg-16.com/images/pcgs.png)

Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: hoobs88 on May 12, 2013, 01:35:01 PM
Happy Mother's Day funds sent
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Post by: jeffhlewis on May 12, 2013, 01:58:37 PM
galam - I've got 2 turbo games I can throw into the pot if you're doing the auction. just let me know where to send.
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Post by: soop on May 12, 2013, 10:35:50 PM
Oh snap.  I'm gonna figure out something, but things are tight for me right now.  Hang in there.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: bartre on May 13, 2013, 07:32:34 AM
hang in there bernie, there's a light at the end of the tunnel.
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Post by: RoyVegas on May 13, 2013, 07:50:56 AM
Hopefully things will look up for you and your family, sooner than later.  I added a little bit to your funding and hope it helps even though it isn't much.
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Post by: _joshuaTurbo on May 13, 2013, 07:54:55 AM
Hang in there Bernie.  Best wishes!!
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Post by: MrFlutterPie on May 13, 2013, 09:10:38 AM
I am sorry for the crap you are going through right now :(

I wish your daughter a speedy recovery!

Hang in there guy.
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Post by: roflmao on May 13, 2013, 05:10:29 PM
Thinking about you Bernie.
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Post by: Necromancer on May 14, 2013, 02:56:18 AM
Thinking about you Bernie.

Me too.

* resumes touching himself *
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Post by: KnightWarrior on May 23, 2013, 06:45:41 AM
I be praying Bernie
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Post by: BigusSchmuck on May 24, 2013, 01:44:49 PM
I sent you some cash from some of my dot matrix sales. I might just put the rest up on these forums for people to look at...
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: psychobear85 on May 27, 2013, 07:09:20 PM
A little late on here been having problems of my own but I'm sending a little your way .
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: psychobear on May 27, 2013, 07:14:36 PM
A little late on here been having problems of my own but I'm sending a little your way .
I didn't know I had 2 accounts but I added a little to your paypal
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: tggodfrey on May 27, 2013, 11:28:47 PM
A little late on here been having problems of my own but I'm sending a little your way .
I didn't know I had 2 accounts but I added a little to your paypal

Ditto.
Title: Re: Hear me out.
Post by: Bernie on May 28, 2013, 12:01:11 AM
Appreciate everything guys.  There has been a tremendous amount of support from this community.  It will not be forgotten.