Calm down and observe.  (It's possibly the reason for your double-posts, too.)
The direction you are facing when an enemy is hit with the wand weapons in Neut II is the one it will be sent in.  So, if you unleash a fireball towards an enemy and then turn around, it'll come towards you.  So, just watch where you face your character when you attack an enemy with slow-moving fire / whirlwind.